Dec
19
Tips To Navigate Your Interracial Wedding
Have you seen the movie Loving? One couple’s fight for the right to be married and live in peace was captured in this true-life story. Nothing puts it more beautifully than this heart stopping dialogue:
“Is there anything you’d me like to say to them? And by them, I mean the Supreme Court justices of the United States?”
“Yeah,” Richard says. “Tell the judge I love my wife.”
Race, and interracial marriage can be a difficult and volatile subject. It isn’t our goal to point any fingers, or cause misunderstandings. Rather, it is to support those who love each other and promote peace. If you’re facing an interracial wedding, here are some tips to survive!
Tip #1 Talk About It
Discuss your expectations, roles, responsibilities, and even who foots the bill. Understand what you experience as the bride or the groom as the norm for wedding traditions, might be different for your partner. Be willing to discuss the process and make sure everyone knows early on what is expected of them.
Tip #2 Meet Halfway
Be willing to make compromises to maintain respect for each other. Yet, at the same time place boundaries. This means having boundaries on things like time and money.
Tip #3 Be Ready for a Reaction, But Don’t Expect It
Whether it’s friends, family, or even vendors, be ready for negative reactions. Don’t assume everyone will be negative about your interracial relationship, but be ready for any negative responses. There’s a subtle difference here. When we expect something, we often create situations where individuals fulfill our negative assumptions. When we are prepared for something, it allows us to respond in strength and confidence, rather than be hurt or react in anger and frustration. You may be surprised at how supportive some people will be. Embrace that.
Tip #4 Be On The Same Page
When planning your elegant wedding, make sure you and your spouse-to-be are on the same page. Have you had the hard discussions? Do you know without a doubt, they love you as you are, regardless of your race? Knowing these things before planning your wedding will help you ride out any rocky moments along the way.
Anchored and Steadfast
Make sure your love is anchored before you start the planning process. If you do, you’ll ride out the storms. As you choose your vendors, plan the magical moment, and look forward to your future together, don’t forget why you decided to get married in the first place.
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Galina Hitching
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